YES! Don’t worry! This is the ‘new normal’ nowadays. Whatever may be the reason (job-oriented, carrier-focused, unresolved legacy issues, unable to find right partner, etc), life always has something to give us in the form of a tension, these days. Yes, tensions; reason for our stress-filled lives and unachieved wishes.
One has to give so many discounts to move to the next level in life. And, unfortunately, marriage is also one among them. After achieving whatever we dreamt in life, we realize that we have crossed our early 30s (highly competitive world!) and the person whom we want to be in our life had already got married to someone else. Gosh! Now, we need to digest our loss and have to carry out a new search afresh; to find that mermaid/handsome in this high-population dense world.
As long as both the genders are not earning anything and they don’t have any achievements in life, there is a lot of chance that they share most of the ideas and aspirations. Now, when a couple starts experiencing new things in life, their outlook about life changes to such an extent that the same loving couple in their 20s feel incompatible to each other in their late 30s.
However, there is an upside to this new situation we are in. By the time a person cross his 30s, at least s/he might be leading a comfortable lifestyle. All those partner preferences of his/her 20s get changed now. The outlook about this world and his/her own life changes also drastically. Now, with this new perspective, s/he gets a chance to find his/her life partner.
Please remember that the days of women playing the role of a housewife has gone. Nowadays, due to high cost of living, financial pressures are mounting. To deal with the unexpected spending spikes, both the partners have to do job. This situation is completely different from what we have seen as kids; most of the mothers are house-wives THEN. In those days, if at all there is a change in the status (divorce/separated/etc) of the family, it is from that partner, who is going out and earning livelihood for the whole family. However, now, since both the partners are going out and experiencing new things, their preferences and ambitions change. If the couple doesn’t know how to deal with their new experiences, suddenly they become victim of their new found lifestyle and the most loving family on this planet files for divorce!
What is the reason for this NEW change in our lives? life’s new experiences, soul’s unquenched thirst to experience new things, and guts to face new challenges to fulfill our ambitious life. After marriage, as long as, a person is selfish and thinks only about himself/herself, life is bound to ruin. The moment s/he considers her partner’s preferences in doing anything in life, it is bound to flourish. Sharing, caring, and delegating are must in this new world.
This blog does not say that both the partners bounded by marriage cannot do jobs as it becomes anathema for their marriage survival. It simply tries to explain what are all the factors that are influencing our lives at the moment and how we can deal with them either to stay happily married or to get newly married with the person whom s/he likes most to lead a happily married life.
Best of luck!
One has to give so many discounts to move to the next level in life. And, unfortunately, marriage is also one among them. After achieving whatever we dreamt in life, we realize that we have crossed our early 30s (highly competitive world!) and the person whom we want to be in our life had already got married to someone else. Gosh! Now, we need to digest our loss and have to carry out a new search afresh; to find that mermaid/handsome in this high-population dense world.
As long as both the genders are not earning anything and they don’t have any achievements in life, there is a lot of chance that they share most of the ideas and aspirations. Now, when a couple starts experiencing new things in life, their outlook about life changes to such an extent that the same loving couple in their 20s feel incompatible to each other in their late 30s.
However, there is an upside to this new situation we are in. By the time a person cross his 30s, at least s/he might be leading a comfortable lifestyle. All those partner preferences of his/her 20s get changed now. The outlook about this world and his/her own life changes also drastically. Now, with this new perspective, s/he gets a chance to find his/her life partner.
Please remember that the days of women playing the role of a housewife has gone. Nowadays, due to high cost of living, financial pressures are mounting. To deal with the unexpected spending spikes, both the partners have to do job. This situation is completely different from what we have seen as kids; most of the mothers are house-wives THEN. In those days, if at all there is a change in the status (divorce/separated/etc) of the family, it is from that partner, who is going out and earning livelihood for the whole family. However, now, since both the partners are going out and experiencing new things, their preferences and ambitions change. If the couple doesn’t know how to deal with their new experiences, suddenly they become victim of their new found lifestyle and the most loving family on this planet files for divorce!
What is the reason for this NEW change in our lives? life’s new experiences, soul’s unquenched thirst to experience new things, and guts to face new challenges to fulfill our ambitious life. After marriage, as long as, a person is selfish and thinks only about himself/herself, life is bound to ruin. The moment s/he considers her partner’s preferences in doing anything in life, it is bound to flourish. Sharing, caring, and delegating are must in this new world.
This blog does not say that both the partners bounded by marriage cannot do jobs as it becomes anathema for their marriage survival. It simply tries to explain what are all the factors that are influencing our lives at the moment and how we can deal with them either to stay happily married or to get newly married with the person whom s/he likes most to lead a happily married life.
Best of luck!
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