ARRANGED-CUM-LOVE MARRIAGE

Most of us know that most of the youngsters vote for love marriage. Love marriage is something which they think that gives them some sort of grip on their ‘future life’ and their ‘partner choosing’ as well. Arranged marriage involves lot many people including your elders. Actually, the decision making is done by the elders of both the parties based on both the bride’s and groom’s horoscope, family history, attitude compatibility, etc, details. In this case, since the analysis is done by so many people, the chance of identifying any problem happens in the initial stage itself. If the identified problem falls under the unsolved category, then both the parties back off from the marriage proposal with mutual consent before making any commitment toward each other.

However, arranged marriage brings a few issues also. Since so many parties are involved in this match making, issues like ego satisfaction, party’s attitude, thinking too much about unnecessary info, etc, surface. From outside, for a third-party, it looks like everything hangs in the air until the marriage is done. Compared with this, a love marriage looks like simple and to the point; the number of involved parties is few. Most of the times, it is bride and groom along with a few well-wishers. Once the garlands are exchanged and signatures are jotted down before the marriage registrar in the registrar office, the marriage is over. In this scenario, the decisions are taken by the ‘would be’ couple. However, in arranged marriage, everyone calls the shots except the bride and groom.

However, there is a case which falls neither under love marriage category nor arranged marriage; this is what is called arranged-cum-love marriage. For someone, who is late in his/her 30s and want to get married then, there are so many community matrimonial sites available nowadays. In this age, romance is a far away affair for most of the people. So, arranged marriage is the probable option. However, if no one is there to talk to the bride or groom on behalf of you, then you can engage the matrimonial site people to do that ‘middleman’ job. These middlemen reach the target party and convey your likes, dislikes, preferences, etc and in turn get the other party information also. Since this is business, they charge some amount based on the marriage budget for their services.

In pure arranged marriage, selection of bride and groom is done by the elders first and then they seek the acceptance of all the involved parties. However, in this case, the bride/groom is selecting their respective partner, contact them, chat with them for hours, days, years, etc, and then if they decide that s/he is the one that they can spend rest of their life, then they press the matrimony middlemen into their service to talk with the other party’s family members. So, this is a case of arranged-cum-love marriage, which is the most happening thing nowadays.